Boundaries,  encouragement,  PreNup Pop,  Relationships

Don’t Matter What She Say…You’re In Control!

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Look Bruh, I know that arguments are inevitable in a relationship. Especially, if you’re in a relationship with a black woman! Personally, I prefer not to argue about every little damn thing going on in my relationship, but at some point I “have” stand my ground. I’m not one of those go with the flow type of dudes. I keep to myself for the most part. But I can tell one thing, I’m not with this “let the woman run all over you with her words”, while you sit there and look like a big a$$ baby! Naw mane, I  don’t rock like that! However, it seems like we’re socially at a time where women feel they have the “right” to say what the hell they wanna say, and expect men to fall their a$$ in line (period)! I know we have free speech, and have complete autonomy to express ourselves. I’m good with all of that! Say what you got to say, just don’t expect me to jump every time you say two words out of your mouth!

Now listen My G, I’m not at all suggesting we be disrespectful to our ladies. Our Queens need to know that we love them, and appreciate their “brand” of communication. What I’m specifically dealing with is when conversations get heated, and you know you’re about to get lit! Don’t ever feel like you “have” to listen to everything she “say,” when you know you’re about to lose your composure! I don’t care what she say, you’re in control – of you! You can’t afford to let your lady’s words disrupt your emotional stability. My G, I’m telling what I know, sometimes your lady will test your resolve by running her damn mouth on purpose! You can call it playin games, being an a$$, feeling herself, estrogen, or whatever you want – you just can’t lose your “control” dawgg!

Ok so listen, the first thing that you have to always remember, is you “losing” control is far more detrimental than the words coming out of her mouth! Because real talk, when we as men lose control, we become aggressive. There is nothing that your lady can do to match your aggression. I don’t care how many threats she ignorantly shouts at you, I promise you B, if you decide to let that ‘beast” out, there is nothing (short of bustin a cap in yo a$$) she can do to stop you (period)! As difficult as I know it can be to listen to her say things that you don’t particularly care for, they’re just words. Don’t let “words” be a detriment to your well being. You have to know that you have the capability to be poised, and exert your influence as a man by remaining calm.

From man to man, it’s really about being a man of distinction and wisdom. Seriously dawgg, we allow ourselves to become rattled by our women because we are mentally undisciplined. She “ain’t” got the power dawgg, to have you out there actin’ a fool! My G, we are the leaders of our household, and we can’t influence our fams when we don’t exemplify self-control! The truth of the matter is that our women want a strong man who can effectively lead the crib! Any dude can go “ape s#%t, and act like a damn idiot! It takes a mature man who is confident within himself to handle a woman with a lil “buck” in her! (and trust me, if you got a Queen, she got some buck in there somewhere!) My G, when those arguments get lit, and you know you ’bout to take it there, remember that you’re the Man! There is no one (including your lady) that has the “power” to make you lose control!

What's good fam!!! I'm a divorced father of (8), and currently engaged to the most beautiful joint I've every seen! Let me break it down (6) kids are my bio-seedlings, and the other (2) sweet-hearts belong my soon-to-be wife! I'm an entrepreneur (hustler), and author. Fatherhood is my calling and passion. This blog is for My G's that hold it down for their "blended" fam, but haven't taking them nuptials. I'm all about empowering fathers and building strong families!

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