Business,  Finances,  Relationships

Let’s get that bag…together!

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Next month is our [3] year anniversary. I’m pretty proud of the fact that Babe, and I have endured for this long. There have been so many obstacles, and challenges My G! One of our biggest hurdles has been establishing our financial base. I’ve longed to be in a relationship with a chic that wants “the bag” as much as I do! Not just in the sense of gettin money to get money, but in the sense of acquiring self-attainment through the development of personal gifts and talents. I’m “talmbout” creating wealth from our own hands and abilities. So I understand that’s more than just a mindset, that’s a lifestyle – that I desperately want to live with my lady! I’ve pondered and questioned over and over and over and over again, whether a relationship is worth having if said lifestyle can’t be attained! Perhaps that’s for another post (let me know if you want me to write that one – holla!). But what I’m getting at is, what kind of real energy is between you, and your lady when it comes to “gettin the bag?”

My lady is smart. (grandma always used to tell me to “don’t get no dumb girl”). So I think I’m good on that end! I have come to learn that she is super talented, and has several creative gifts. I immediately wanted to start some type of business together. I know creative talent when I see it, and have experience in starting my own business. So for me, it was a no brainer, and a win-win! I couldn’t think of any reason why she wouldn’t be cool with starting a business together. We both were at life, and career transitions, so let’s get it poppin’ right, NO! HELL NO! Hell to the Nah! Although my lady has never literally said “NO,” to being in business, she has come up with every reason imaginable not to (immediately) get her grind on! Dawgg, I used to feel like I was in the Matrix discussing business ideas with this lady man! I couldn’t figure out for the life of me why it was so hard to convince someone so talented, and so “available” to start a business.

My lady is a dope cake decorator! She has been decorating cakes for her daughters for years. She decorated a Tweety Bird cake that blew my f#%kin’ mind yo! I thought to myself, “you got to be kiddin’ me!“You can do this, and (we) ain’t got NO business?!” My G, I’m telling you, I was so impressed by the first pic she sent me of the cake, I immediately posted the joint on Facebook! When she saw the post, she text me to tell me the cake wasn’t even complete! I was like “Yo, this s#%t is so dope, I thought the incomplete cake was the joint!” Dude, it’s hard for me to even write this blog because I remember how hype I was when I saw the cake. I was like “we ’bout to get this cake s#%t poppin’!” In my mind I had already left my job, and errrthang! Soon after that, she came with all these damn reasons man! I was disappointed bruh! – as an entrepreneur, and as her partner!

After considering her perspective on business, and several arguments, I finally gave in to the idea that some people just need time! It’s hard for me to think that way though My G! I value time such that I can’t afford to misuse my time any longer. Everyday I wake up my drive is to redeem my time by using my talents and gifts to create income for myself. It’s hard to remain consistent in that mindset, that’s why I don’t want my close associations to be with people who don’t think like that! I literally can’t afford it! My closest association is my lady. I’ve worked hard to “associate” with my lady, while giving our relationship time to learn how to get “that bag” together. As much as I value time, I’m starting to “cherish” patience.

I sat my lady down recently, and offered her a new business proposition. I asked her to develop, create, and start a new business venture that “she” can sustain by the summer of 2019. I didn’t restrict her options, and assured her that I would assist her with any challenges she may encounter. The only condition was that she be consistently diligent, and not procrastinate. She agreed! (YES!) I believe in my lady, and I believe in “US.” I know we have entrepreneurial capabilities. I’m finally learning how to be patient enough, and understanding enough to “build” the trust needed to sustain a real partnership. Real partnerships take time to form. I don’t care how much business savvy, and drive you have. The bag ain’t going no where, so I’m learning (the hard way) to utilize a more patient approach to achieving the “same” goal! My boo is multi-talented, and multi-gifted, but none of that mean s#%t if we can’t get “that bag…together!

What's good fam!!! I'm a divorced father of (8), and currently engaged to the most beautiful joint I've every seen! Let me break it down (6) kids are my bio-seedlings, and the other (2) sweet-hearts belong my soon-to-be wife! I'm an entrepreneur (hustler), and author. Fatherhood is my calling and passion. This blog is for My G's that hold it down for their "blended" fam, but haven't taking them nuptials. I'm all about empowering fathers and building strong families!

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