I could use a lot of statistics to prove the point dad’s have a significant impact of the lives of their children. I could get into debate after debate about how dad’s role affects momz ability to parent effectively. But the truth of the matter is that none of those statistics, nor “arguments” mean anything if the folks in the house where you live don’t value the “time” you invest as a dad. As a PreNup Pops you have to be keenly conscious of the time you “give” to your fam. If you’re like me you have to divide up you time between 2 sets of kids. Often times that time overlaps, but nonetheless that time has value. When you don’t value your own time, and understand the limitations of your capacity, you will wear yourself out trying to please the kids (and accommodate both momz).All the while, you are slowly burning yourself out. I know we as men like to act like we’re the “Black Panther,” but we’re not! You need to learn how to balance your efforts, and manage your time efficiently. As much as you “should” spend time with your kids, you should spend that time on yourself first!
Learn how to understand that your worth is determined by how well you “produce” with your time. If you’re a highly productive father, then you should value yourself by not letting anyone impose on “your” time! Your time is your time My G! You deserve to have time to refresh, invest in your health, socialize, and rest. Just because you are a PreNup Pops, and have kids in different households, don’t mean you are a deadbeat because you don’t give all your time away! You have the right, and responsibility to use your time in a manner that’s advantageous for you bruh! It’s not being selfish if you have to deny the kid’s, or the mothers, access to your life because you are investing in yourself.The emphasis is on being productive, and balancing your time in such a manner that you’re holistically healthy. It’s important to never allow anyone to determine how you should spend your time.
If you have a set visitation schedule, adhere to the schedule. Don’t deviate! Be consistent, so that your kid’s momz know you’re serious about your time. When it’s time to take them jointz back, make sure you’re punctual. It’s important to establish that you “ain’t” just a glorified baby sitter. I don’t care what the visitation schedule is, nor what the circumstance were that produced the schedule, don’t let “your” time as a dad be so expendable. I understand the custodial parent my feel that you “should” be more flexible with your time, but they don’t know what you have going on in your life. As long as you ensure that the time you spend with your kids is quality time, what you do with “your” time outside of visitation is none of their damn business.
Being a PreNup Pops has it’s rewards, and it’s challenges. It’s critical that you maintain a vision for yourself. Don’t allow you dedication, and commitment to blending your fam, overcompensate your need to fortify your life. My G, you need to pay attention to yourself, maintenance yourself, develop yourself, and remain physically healthy. You CAN’T effectively invest your time into your fam, if neglect yourself. You will not last brother! Raising kids is not a sprint. You need endurance to finish your task as a parent. Don’t let your lady over depend on you to compensate for her lack of discipline as a mother. Don’t give in to her disparate pleas for help when she’s being lazy with her time. Empower and teach her how to parent effectively.But don’t to let her take advantage of your hard work as a parent because she refuses to grow as a mother. Because once you allow her to take advantage of “your” time, she will become complacent with her time. Then you will be “expected” to carry a greater share of the parenting responsibilities. Remember, you have a life as well! One day the seedlings will be grown, and you don’t want to lose time that you can never recover. It’s imperative to understand the value of your time, so that your “worth” is appreciated!
What's good fam!!! I'm a divorced father of (8), and currently engaged to the most beautiful joint I've every seen! Let me break it down (6) kids are my bio-seedlings, and the other (2) sweet-hearts belong my soon-to-be wife! I'm an entrepreneur (hustler), and author. Fatherhood is my calling and passion. This blog is for My G's that hold it down for their "blended" fam, but haven't taking them nuptials. I'm all about empowering fathers and building strong families!