Relationships

So “you” really DON’T want to get married?!

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As much as I believe that PreNuptial families are just as legitimate as marital families, I still want to be married – “we” want to get married! It’s not my plan to “shack” up with my fiance forever! I believe in the tradition, and sanctity of holy matrimony. I have always communicated to my fiance my personal convictions regarding marriage. It “ain’t” no secret that I want my “boo” to be my wife – at some point in the near future. As a PreNup Pops I continue to plan, and strategize to securely blend my fam. Moreover, I stay focused on my lady, and I  pay attention to the health of our relationship. I invest in 20180724_105347my lady, and I don’t want to become complacent in “sealing” the deal. Lastly, as a man, when you “know” in your heart, this is the woman you want to build “a couple of forevers” with, you pursue the s#%t! It’s not a game with me, I go hard for what I want, and I don’t like wasting time! So bruh, if you’re a PreNup Pops, and you’ve been working your a$$ off blending your fam, make sure that “ring you put on it” is more than a symbol of  “your” commitment!

My fiance and I have known each other since 2014. We both have been married before. We have had extensive conversations about our “philosophies” regarding marriage. We have quite different views when it comes to the “ideal” of marriage verses the “practice” of marriage. She has made it very clear to me that a piece of paper (marriage license) does not define a marriage, and has no “legal” bearing toward her level of commitment in a marriage. She also has made it abundantly clear that nothing on this earth (including children, marriage license, etc) will “make” her marry, nor stay married to anybody! As much as I understand her position when it comes to her “ideas” about marriage, there are so many contradictions (from my perspective), that make this marriage deal “problematic.”

We have been living, and functioning like a “married” couple for 2 and a half years. There is ” literally” no difference in how we function day to day as a fam, than of a couple who has “jumped the broom.” – NONE! As a matter of fact, I believe, we work harder because of the “blending” dynamic of our household, and the many “issues” we contend with that a traditional (married) family has no clue about. We deal with ish that would break a weak a$$ couple into crack dust!  The level of commitment we have to demonstrate daily is far more intense than your average “shackin'” situation. Without a license the first, we make the s#%t happen, and we’re quite good at it! So I’m like “what’s the problem?” We’ve been through hella ish, and have persevered like vets in the game My G! I mean, what woman don’t want to marry a hard working a$$ man, that cares and provides for the kids, unequivocally loves his woman, and keeps his d#%k at home? What am I missing dawgg??? So real talk, it begs the question, “…so you really don’t want to get married?!”

Listen to me bruh, you can’t afford for marriage not to be a part of your role as a PreNup Pops. You bustin’ your a$$ day in, and day out IS your “prenuptial” agreement dawgg! Without saying a damn vow, you demonstrate your commitment, and devotion to your blended fam. There are no extenuating circumstances that should prohibit any woman from walking down the aisle with you My G! Don’t let “philosophical ideas” devalue the “tangible“, measurable hard work you invest into your lady and them kids! Sometimes women get confused as to how men display their love and solidarity. We can love many different women, but our hearts can only be devoted to (married to) one woman. I read once that “where a man’s heart is, there will his treasure be also.” We as men devote our hearts, and invest ourselves where we “see” there is value. For most of us PreNup Pops, we value our fams as our treasure. What n!gg@ you know out here pissin’ away his energy, time, and resources on some s#%t he don’t care about?!! Marriage is not a reward for your work, but it is the consummate expression of eternal commitment 2 people “agree” is the fullness of their devotion toward one another. Don’t settle My G for less than “her” best! Demand that she step up to the plate (pulpit), and if she don’t (won’t), well, you know what to do….! – Holla!!!

What's good fam!!! I'm a divorced father of (8), and currently engaged to the most beautiful joint I've every seen! Let me break it down (6) kids are my bio-seedlings, and the other (2) sweet-hearts belong my soon-to-be wife! I'm an entrepreneur (hustler), and author. Fatherhood is my calling and passion. This blog is for My G's that hold it down for their "blended" fam, but haven't taking them nuptials. I'm all about empowering fathers and building strong families!

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