If you are one of those dudes that believe every thing your lady tells you, this post might f@%k your life up! So, only read this joint if you have the ballsto accept, and deal with some real ish in your relationship. My OG’s taught me that the #1 Rule as a man is to NEVER trust a woman – under any circumstances! The biggest reason for this all important rule was that women “always” conceal some element of the truth, and will never be fully accountable for this dreaded trait. As I’ve gotten older, and the more relationships with women I’ve been in, the more I’ve experienced the piercing reality of this scrupulous “attribute” in women. So for all of my simpn!gg@s that some how think you got the “one” chic that is completelyhonest, and never “lies,” this is your wake up call My G! “The Lord has sent me to speak into your spirit…,” nah, just f#%kin’ with you! But take this from one “G” to another, your lady may really love you, but she loves “control” more. And this is why she loves “baby daddy,” and he stay in ya lady’s DMs!
Sign #1 – She keeps that n!gg@’s dick in her mouth – figuratively speaking! When your lady continues to make excuses, and purposely minimizes dude’s clear lack of responsibility, she’s still feelin’ that man. She continues to accept his BS, and ride this man’s jock, because she refuses to hold him accountable. She will tell you that she doesn’t love him, but will freelygive him opportunities that he didn’t earn. And when you ask her to explain her reasons, the s#%t don’t never “add” up, nor make any good sense. As a PNP you can never accept any compromise from your woman when it comes to her relationship with her kid’s father(s).
Sign #2 – He stay lurkin’ – even though she say it’s over! It’s one thing to have a cooperative co-parenting relationship, but it’s a totally different vibe when her communication with him becomes “too” friendly. It’s not normal for “baby dads” to text “Good Morning” greetings every morning. And it’s definitely over stepping bounds to communicate daily about random s#%t. And if your lady is still referring to her kid’s father with pet names they used when they were together, that’s completely out of pocket bruh. Dawgg, it ain’t never cool for your lady, nor home boy to communicate with each other like they “Netflixin’ and Chillin.” – NEVER!
Sign #3 – She act like he God!– There will be disagreements between your lady and her kid’s father(s) from time to time. As a PNP, it’s no need to get puffed up, and be out there trying to kick a$$ every time they have an argument. But when your lady act like it’s the end of the world because dude is upset with her, that’s a dead give away she’s still on his s#%t. When she overreacts to simple mess o’ boy does, and over explains conflicts they’re having, it’s because she is hiding her true feelings for “baby dad” from you! Body language is never misleading my brotha! Study her moves, and examine her tendencies. I promise you, you will “see” a much clearer perspective.
Sign #4 – She keeps their “history” concealed like the CIA – Any time you ask questions about her kid’s dad, she answers each question like an interrogation. It’s understandable to be uncomfortable about sharing information of an intimate nature about any romantic relationship. But when there is a clear need to know information, whether it’s about child support agreements, custody issues, or even certain details about their personal history, your lady should never be unwilling to answer your questions. Whenever she demands absolute immunity from answering questions about baby dad, or their relationship, she hiding something My G! Her lack of transparency is a marquee sign of her continuing love for this n!gg@!
Sign #5 – She serve him that box – with a smile! – When your lady continues to give her child’s father(s) props for s#%t he supposed to do, and act like he’s a hero for his minimum contribution to supporting his kid(s), her heart is stuck on this man. It’s alright for your lady to have a positive outlook regarding her kid’s father(s), but there should be balance. When baby daddy is an “ain’t s#%t” n!gg@, then called it like it is! If she is reluctant to acknowledge her “special” interest in maintaining this man’s (holy) image, she is devoted to loving him despite being in a committed relationship with YOU!
It’s imperative as a blended family to have full transparency regarding every relationship in the household. Sometimes your lady will maintain her affection for her baby dad(s), because “she” is unwilling to separate her “personal” feelings from her “obligation” to ensure her child remains connected to their dad. Often times women use “emotional tactics” to maneuver between the truth and honesty. She will be honest about the fact that she “cares” about her child’s father(s), but won’t be truthful about to what degree she “actually” loves this man. We know as PNPs, that for the sake of the child, there will be caring feelings for baby dad. But that doesn’t mean it’s acceptable to use the child as a “cover,” and LIE about the love for baby dad that’s clearly inappropriate. My G, don’t let “semantics,” and complex vernacular confuse your ability to “peep” the truth regarding your lady. I’m not suggesting that you should be suspicious of every word she speaks, but I am urging you to be mindful to always discern the truth, so you won’t be led astray by her “honesty!” – Holla!!!
What's good fam!!! I'm a divorced father of (8), and currently engaged to the most beautiful joint I've every seen! Let me break it down (6) kids are my bio-seedlings, and the other (2) sweet-hearts belong my soon-to-be wife! I'm an entrepreneur (hustler), and author. Fatherhood is my calling and passion. This blog is for My G's that hold it down for their "blended" fam, but haven't taking them nuptials. I'm all about empowering fathers and building strong families!