There are days you and your baby momz not gonna get along. Especially if you’re passionate about your role in the relationship y’all probably gonna butt heads – a lot! Having conflicts is not a problem in and of itself, but unresolved conflicts can cost you precious relational equity with your step seedlings. Kids natural loyalty, in general, align with the custodial bio-parent. When the kids realize that their is beef between their
momz and I, they become real clingy all of a sudden. It creates an us against “him” dynamic in the crib.This kind of parental alienation perpetuates the divide that already exist – even if nobody wants to acknowledge it!!!
Despite whatever beef my fiance and I maybe dealing with, our family doesn’t stop. We still have to check homework, prepare dinner, take kids back and forth to school, discipline kids, change diapers, the whole 9! As a PreNup Pops you can’t stop engaging the kids, and go hide in the “man cave” because the kids are now “actin’ a fool with their momma.” This is where it’s critical to maintain your role as a father-figure, and not let your beef distract your parenting. Because believe you me if you f#%k up one little thing, or be anti-social with the kids, you’re gonna hear about that s#%t in a future beef (trust me on that!).
Maintaining your “G’ness“, and not allowing your beef with their momz to interfere with your parenting is essential to maintaining your capacity to handle bigger issues down the road.
When my fiance and I beef it’s usually pretty big! We don’t argue in front of the kids. But neither one of us are afraid to display our discontent with each other publicly. There is a cost as a PreNup Pops to your ability to parent when the kids know their mother is beefin’ with you. You have to protect your real estate as an influence in the crib by not allowing yourself to respond negatively to the obvious “blacklivesmatter” protest! By not coming off as bitchy and staying true to the game, you can sustain your position with integrity. Because once you respond to their BS’ness, you reduce your authority and power as a father-figure. It’s important to remain consistent, patient, and “smart” while beefin’ with the kid’s momz because the household still needs your presence – even if youMAD!
What's good fam!!! I'm a divorced father of (8), and currently engaged to the most beautiful joint I've every seen! Let me break it down (6) kids are my bio-seedlings, and the other (2) sweet-hearts belong my soon-to-be wife! I'm an entrepreneur (hustler), and author. Fatherhood is my calling and passion. This blog is for My G's that hold it down for their "blended" fam, but haven't taking them nuptials. I'm all about empowering fathers and building strong families!