It’s called Child Support, not Child Supplement – DAMN!
May 2, 2018
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My dude if I see another damn post about Child Support I’m going “ham” on errrbody! It’s so crazy to me how many women out here seem so oblivious to the damaging repercussions the “system” levies against so many hard working dads. And on the other hand I fail to understand how many of my brothas act a fool because they baby momz want some damn support! First off let me say that I’m in the CS system, and I hate that s#%t with a passion. And I’m also in a blended fam where CS has been an ongoing issue with my fiance and her kid’s father for nearly 2 years. See if you can feel me on this! No matter how many formulas the state derives, no individual living outside the custodial parent’s house knows how much is truly adequate to financially support your child! Every situation and household is different. And please help me understand how any baby momz can expect any type of support from a dude that’s under-employed or unemployed. Sticking a dad with “papers” and sending DSS after him is not ’bout to get you money any faster.
My main issue is the CS argument is rooted in selfishness on both sides. If the parents are not together why does it seem the custodial parent believes they deserve a King’s Ransom to support their kid? I’m like “what the hell yo a$$ going to contribute?” Everybody knows kids cost, but damn why you trying to get “filet migon” money and you feeding the kids Oodles and Noodles – Child Pleaze! Just because the system makes it legal to pursue someone for financial support doesn’t mean the system is fair. The CS system really needs some major reform. But until then mothers need to learn and accept that CS is not a supplement for their financial responsibility toward their damn kids. And at the same time I urge every brohta, including myself, to be fully accountable to adequately supporting their kids without resenting the mother for expecting “reasonable” support. I’m so tired of women defining what support should be from the father’s perspective. Stop telling men what responsible fatherhood is or is not! We fathers love our kids just as much as any mom, and want to support our kids despite the negative undermining rhetoric that many of us dads are deadbeats. If women don’t want deadbeat dads, stop f#%king irresponsible brothas who ain’t got s#%t. Do yourself a favor my brotha, and strap up! Because there are women out here who will gladly supplement your entire salary for the “right” to systemize your fatherhood for their gain!
What's good fam!!! I'm a divorced father of (8), and currently engaged to the most beautiful joint I've every seen! Let me break it down (6) kids are my bio-seedlings, and the other (2) sweet-hearts belong my soon-to-be wife! I'm an entrepreneur (hustler), and author. Fatherhood is my calling and passion. This blog is for My G's that hold it down for their "blended" fam, but haven't taking them nuptials. I'm all about empowering fathers and building strong families!